It is a gorgeous sunny day here in Seattle. I am soaking up as much of it as possible and writing this at a local coffee shop down the street.
We’re getting closer and closer to crossing over to the second half of the year.
I know, sorry. I said it.
It seems like a good time to start planning for the second half. Is there anything that could be fixed or adjusted to better suit your needs and your schedule? Anything that could be cut out completely? It’s not easy to let go of old habits or routine things we have going on. But it’s crucial to only keep around the things that continue to serve us.
One major issue I am constantly struggling with is getting out of my own way.
I have this tendency to self-sabotage or beat myself up whenever anything goes wrong. Or question everything when it goes well.
If you’re like me, you have a tend to be super critical of everything you do, you worry constantly about how other people will perceive things, whether or not something will work out or matter or if anything is good enough. Anytime I am offered a great opportunity, I tend to wonder what the catch is. Or why me? Am I worthy?
It’s about time that you and I both, cut the crap and acknowledged that we are human beings. We are definitely not perfect and certainly not obligated to do anything that isn’t serving us.
It’s easy to get wrapped up in any task or project or job you have going on. It’s even easier to get so consumed by it that you lose the ability to handle it objectively. That’s why I am constantly working on finding ways to unwind and clear my head. One of the biggest things that’s helped me thus far is meditation and yoga (they tend to go hand in hand but you can always do one or the other).
When I go to a yoga class I am forced to clear my head. I have no choice and I love that. It’s key to make sure you find ways to clear your mind of all that stressful work, social life, family life goings on that can ramble around endlessly in your head to the point where you might scream in the middle of a crowded public setting. (No, I have never done that...yet.)
Not to mention that breathing and stretching is one of the best ways to battle stress. Plus it’s good for you, that sounds like a win-win to me.
So if no one’s said this to you yet, here it is.
You are a human being. You are smart, beautiful, and fully capable of achieving anything if you are willing to put in the work to get there. You WILL mess-up once in awhile. Things will not work out all the time. Shit will hit the fan on occasion. People make mistakes. Not everyone will like you and that’s their agenda to worry about, not yours.
The best thing you can do is continue to keep it pushing and carry on like the amazing, fully capable person you are.
Success is never an accident. It is a choice.
If you have any of your own advice or tips to avoid self-sabotage, leave them in the comments below!
Maybe you know someone that’s going through this problem right now? Grab them by the shoulders, look them in the eye and tell them that they are doing a great job. (It helps a lot if you know them too.)
Till next week,